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Men
"It’s a disease, and a disease has no gender,
it picks on men and women alike."
The incidence of women with eating disorders is so prevalent that many people believe
that eating disorders only affect women. This is a deadly myth. The stigma attached
to these disorders may cause millions of men who suffer from eating disorders to
remain without support, treatment and recovery. Just as women once rarely acknowledged
their alcoholism, men are reluctant to admit they suffer from eating disorders.
Part of the hesitancy may stem from the fear of seeking support for a "female problem".
Men can and do suffer from Anorexia, Bulimia and Compulsive Overeating. Men are
resistant to ask for help for their eating disorder because since childhood they
are told to "be in control", "tough it out", and "handle it themselves" without
seeking out help. To be unable to control something in life is mistaken as a sign
of weakness for men. Men are often not given permission to express their feelings
and may turn to eating disordered behavior to cope with uncomfortable feelings.
The under diagnosis of eating disorders in men is not limited to the lay public
but unfortunately also includes physicians and other healthcare providers. Physicians
are more likely to look for physical causes of weight change before considering
an eating disorder as the cause in their male clients. The loss of menstrual cycles
in anorexic women, which often alerts professionals to an eating disorder, is not
present in anorexic men. For men with eating disorders, levels of testosterone decrease
along with sexual libido, which often go unreported or unnoticed. The eating disorder
Bulimia may go partly unrecognized, as overeating by men is less likely to evoke
concern. The diagnosis of an eating disorder in men takes about twice as long as
in women, leaving the problems associated with the eating disorder to worsen.
Many of the underlying issues that contribute to an eating disorder including low
self-esteem, depression, feeling of loss of control, abuse, identity concerns, inability
to cope with emotions and family communication problems, are the same for both men
and women. There are some variations in these eating disordered issues that manifest
themselves differently in men. Men with eating disorders for example, are more concerned
with body size and shape, whereas women with eating disorders are more concerned
with weight. Body image concerns are a strong indication of eating disordered behavior
in men. Men with eating disorders usually began developing a negative relationship
with their bodies as a result of teasing and taunting by their peers. This teasing
and rejection by others becomes internalized and leads to the individual becoming
disconnected and ashamed of their own body. Our culture values athleticism and pushes
the masculine ideal for boys. Eating disordered men report having had difficulty
fitting into the masculine values of competitiveness, aggressiveness, strength,
athleticism and independence. Boys who later in life develop eating disorders tend
to be more passive, non-athletic, and dependent then their non-eating disordered
counterparts. It is common to hear from men, who suffer from eating disorders, the
memories of pain and embarrassment regarding having been the last one chosen for
athletic teams. The pressure of weight restrictions in certain sports is fostering
eating disorders among athletic men as well. These sports include wrestling, gymnastics,
swimming, horse racing, running, rowing, and bodybuilding. Among bodybuilders the
dangerous use of steroids can cause serious side effects including depression, sexual
dysfunction, and other physical disorders.
Adolescence, the period in life where identity is developed and defined, is a particularly
difficult time for eating disordered males. The development of an eating disorder
for males, may be partially the result of an attempt by the individual to unconsciously
deal with gender identity conflicts. Confusion and anxiety about becoming a man
and sexuality can be temporarily avoided by the practice of an eating disorder.
Some males attempt to deal with their sexual impulses by participating in eating
disorder behavior as a way to attempt to regain control over their bodies. Starvation,
a practice of Anorexics, can reduce the production of testosterone and subsequently
reduce sexual drive for men.
Families also play a role in eating disordered behavior in men. Fathers often relate
more with their sons physically then emotionally. Mothers often relate to their
daughters through emotions and feelings. Fathers on the other hand, tend to relate
to sons through the participation in athletic activities. Mothers will often talk
to their daughters about what is going on in their life, whereas fathers are more
likely to toss a baseball or football. If a son is not proficient at sports, he
may feel he has not only let down his father but has also lost a channel of communication.
It is also important to note that many eating disordered men identify more closely
with their mothers than with their fathers.
Society is changing its values towards the male body. Societal pressures to obtain
the "ideal" body image are no longer gender specific. To attest to this you only
have to peruse a magazine rack to notice the proliferation of men's magazines whose
focus is on looks, fitness, and nutrition. Only a decade ago you could only find
a few magazines dedicated to these issues, now there are over 20. Magazines, television
and movies saturate us with images of men with six-pack abs and sharply defined
pecs. The male body can now be viewed as a sex object and in this new role men are
becoming as body obsessed as women. Most men no longer work out at the gym to enhance
health and athleticism but rather for aesthetic reasons. Today, men comprise over
a quarter of all cosmetic surgery patients. Today's men are willing to endure strenuous
workouts, strict diets and even cosmetic surgery to conform to these new images.
Rader Programs understands these issues and can help men recover
from these devastating disorders.
For more information or to arrange for a free confidential consultation, call
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